Friend With Benefits

In some point of our lives, we, the women may experience friend with benefits, One Night Stand, fuck buddy, fling, booty call, sex friend or whatever and we learned from it, same thing go for the guys as well. I think there is absolutely no shame in that so I went thought the same thing. No one is perfect. Here is my question that had been mind blogging for a quite while.  What does Friends With Benefits really mean to you? Everybody have different perspective of definite of FWB. Friend with benefits should be meeting about sex only & nothing more. My definition of friend with benefits involve two person having sexual relationship with no strings attached. People does not get understanding what NSA mean. All of the sudden you will hear a person said I am so in love with him or her. Your mental pause and say WTF just happen? what happen to NSA? lolz. During sex relationship, there should be no hugging, kissing, touching, holding hand, NO NOTHING. There should be no expensive dinners, no rose, hanging out, or NO NOTHING. There also should be no dating, no emotionally involved. NO NOTHING. JUST FACKING. It is all about sex and meeting your need. If it does happen, the relationship will become very complicated and you have to put end to all of it because either one of you who develop feeling WILL end up getting your feeling hurt. To continue friend with benefit, someone WILL get caught up into feeling. No question asked. It is impossible for a person not to have feeling for each other and still facking each other many time. Friend with benefits ends up one friend friends falling for the other and they will have a hard time getting that out.You just can't hoping or waiting for the other person starting feeling you as well if you already have feeling for that person two or three years. So waiting for that person to make you their partners is a waste of time so don't let your precious time to wasted on that. It won't happen but maybe to some people. You can always discuss the boundaries for both parties before you take this friend with benefit relationship further and always play it safe. Take the agreement serious.

From my personal experiences, I have experienced fling, and friends with benefits. it is not a good thing because it can ruin your friendship. I have lost my good friend over two years and there is no way you can stop your emotional for getting in the way. I couldn't do it. I was the one end up getting my feeling hurt because I let it happen. We made decision that we will not going to settle down and don't want to be in relationship. It is felt great to be in FWB but the other way around, it is not good. We facked three or four time a week, being so romantic in public, kissing, touching and feeling each other in public. I told him to stop because people are watching us. He doesn't give a damn who watching. I don't want the neighborhood to be up all in my koolaid. We were just keeping it on the low but it was hard. He keep coming to see in me public. He slept over my house a couple of day and I slept over his house. I had to call it off with him because I was feeling him more and more everyday. He tripped because he doesn't want me to be with no other man. He always asked me if I was facking with other men. We are not in relationship, so it is my choice to be with other men. He is too selfish. He got mad about it because he doesn't want me to call it off. It's my choice and I made it that way. Sometime I wondering if he was catching feeling with me because he was always saying "I miss you." I asked him a question about issue of being pregnant. From there, that was it. I couldn't put myself in those position. There is no way in hell that I am going to be dealing with a deadbeat dad. In two years later, No texting, no nothing, he found me on Tagged and email me out of the blue just want to friend with me. There is no way I am accepting him as my friend because we will be living in the past again. Now he wants another sex marathon with me. Is he out of his fucking mind? I stop talking to him because he still the same person. I flushed his friendship with me down in the drain. It was a great friendship but he decided to mess that up. Another thing, he got mad if I call this friend with benefits or just a booty call. Why would he get mad for? SMH.

So what is wrong the picture? I wouldn't call it friend with benefits. It is a bunchy of heartache.

I am in love with the person who I thought he was my fwb but he want to take it to another level. WOW. All I want it to be a fling with him, and it turn out I am falling for him even more. I never thought I will be in relationship with this dude. it is a blessing. I will never ever put myself in that position again because I don't like one bit.

here is some rules of having friend with benefits:

• No quality time
• NO Romance
• No Sleepovers
• Be Brutally honest
• No Holding Hands
• No calling just to say HI
• Safe sex
• Absolutely no pet names.
• Set Boundaries

Lmao at this agreement!!!!!!!! This is a perfect example for Friend with Benefits Agreement. lolz.

This pre-booty call agreement (hereinafter referred to as the "Agreement") is entered into on the _____day of __________, 2008, by_______________________, between ____________and______________.

THIS AGREEMENT SHALL COVER THE FOLLOWING RULES AND PRINCIPLES:

1. No sleeping over - unless it is very good and we need to repeat it in the morning.

2. No meeting in public except for dinner or drinks before the events of the evening.

3. No calls before 9 PM - we don't have shit to talk about.

4. None of that "lovemaking" shit - only sex allowed.

5. No emotional discussions (i.e. Where are we heading with this? Do you love me?) The

answer is no, so don't ask.

6. No plans made in advance - that is why you are called the "backup," unless you are from

out-of-town, then it's only a one-time advanced arrangement.

7. All gifts accepted - money is always good.

8. No baby talk - however, dirty talk is encouraged.

9. No asking for comparisons with former lovers - it's really none of your damn business.

10. No calling each other "friends with privileges" we are not friends, just sex buddies.

11. Calling out the wrong name during sex is OK - don't be offended.

12. No extra clothing - I don't want your ass leaving anything behind when you leave.

13. No falling asleep right after sex - it's over, so get your ass up, get dressed and go the

**** home.

14. Don't be offended if I don't ask if you enjoyed it - I don't care.

15. You cannot borrow my car for any reason.

16. If anyone asks who you are, the standard response will be: "My roommate's

girlfriend/boyfriend."

17. Doggie style is the preferred position - the reason is less eye contact the better.

19. No condoms, no ****ing. Carry your ass home.

20. Bring your own drink - I am not your liquor store.

21. No phone use, please - don't want anyone calling back looking for your ass.

* EXTRA TIP FOR SUCCESSFUL BOOTY CALLS:

The aforementioned rules may only be altered by the holder of the agreement. If the other party attempts to change or alter any terms of this Agreement, it will automatically

become null and void and you will then be removed from the BOOTY CALL LIST and deleted from phone memory and email list. In other words, you will be BLOCKED from all communications until your silly ass understands the rules.

Participating Party

Signature_______________________________________

Date: ________________

Participating Party

Signature_______________________________________

Date: ________________

NFL Super Bowl XlV Championship: Green Bay Packers

Green Bay Packers won the NFL Super Bowl XlV Championship. My gut was so right and I knew they were going to win that bowl. I was so alone supporting this team and I knew I have haters on my back. haha.. At least, I got my cousin and some friends with me to support the Packers. This game gave me too much of heartache because Steelers were so close to win the Super Bowls but the Packers won't that to happen. They did a great job of winning this game even though Charles Woodson & Donald Driver was out of play due to shoulder injury. I was expecting that he will be back on the field to play Unfortunately no luck of that going to happen.  The Packers and including the Driver and Woodson were doing so good on the first half but the rest of the half, I am very much disappoint that the two of them never did return back on the field. If the two of them back on the field, THEY WOULD MURDER STEELERS WITH 40-25. I am sure that Woodson & Driver is super excited that his team won.  I really enjoy watching NFL Super Bowl XIV Championship: Green Bay vs Pittsburgh Steelers. Green Bay Packers keep NFC championship going strong and it will stay strong every year. Amazing Job, Packers.  For the Steelers & Steelers's fans, I am very much admire your history & tradition but tonight is Green Bay Packers' s night. Packers, Let it shine. The Packers deserve that beautiful trophy. Green Bay Packers won their fourth super bowls this year. They have not been in the Championship bowl since 1998. I hope I am correct.Correct me if I am wrong.

 I just love when Steelers fans quiet down on facebook because they were mad that they lost the championship & didn't even try their best to win tonight. Talking all that smack is not going to help them win the championship. I plead the fifth, I did some little smacking but I was in my humble mode for rest of the half. lolz. Oh well, They will be all right."Don't hate the players, hate the game." lolz. Steelers played a great game tonight. There is always next year.

The super bowl halftime was okay but it was so good to see USHER RAYMOND performer O.M.G on the field. We need more such as TREY SONGZ, and other. I know it will be hot. lolz. 

Commercials: I have absolutely no comment on this . All I can say they sucked big time. The Doritos commercials are working on my last nerve at the end and the snicker commercials was so funny when Rosie got hit by a log. Ouch, that hurts. . lolz. There is some commercials that I find very interesting and funny but other, suck as well. Do more game and less commercials. These commercials ain't make us laughing hard but I really enjoying the movie previews and some of the car commercials.

Congratulation to Green Bay Packers

Congratulation to Green Bay Packers

Bowl Time 2011

Super Bowl XLV: Pittsburgh Steelers vs. Green Bay Packers

 You know what today is:: SUPERBOWL TIME. Let's get this game started. I am looking forward to watch the biggest game of the year. I am not that excited to see this game unless my handsome babies playing. WHO DAT!!!!! New Orleans Saints will ALWAYS be my number one fan but I am sad that they didn't make to to the Super Bowls. Oh well, there is always next year.  lolz.I am just rooting for fun. I am supporting this team does not mean they will be my favorite team. No. I should be neutral  in this since I support both last January. So Anyway, I know I am gonna have a lot of haters on my back because I am rooting this team. You haters got my fans famous and keep it going. I know this team will definitely will win the Superbowl Championship of 2011. No question asked!!!! My gut is telling me so I keep my answer to myself. I might be wrong but I HOPE I am not. I will try my best to stay humble on facebook. lolz. I supported Steelers & Green Bays to win the Super Bowl so I know one of the teams will win the Super Bowl championship. I am not mention any name. lolz. I wish I could be with my boo to support this team. I will be his opponent and make him mad and stuff. lolz.

My facebook status:  

I am rooting that #Yellow&_ _ _ _ _ .#Yellow&_ _ _ _ _ .#Yellow&_ _ _ _ _. Im rocking that #Yellow&_ _ _ _ _ . I ain't rooting tha #Yellow&_ _ _ _ _ .#Yellow&_ _ _ _ _ .#Yellow&_ _ _ _ _ .I aint rocking that #Yellow&_ _ _ _ _ . Go _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _. #_ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _Rocks!!!!   Can you figure which teams I am supporting? So Go figure...  

Kevin Hart statement: 

"Ladies today is "National Shut Da Fuck Up Day" I advise u all 2 leave ur man alone....fellas if ur smart u will lock her out of the house." - Kevin Hart.. 

Lmao.. lmao.. Ladies, you know it is so true but damn, he is so damn wrong for that. Let the guy have their last football season to watch & be there to support them. Be his opponent but don't talk tooooo much. lol. Women loves football as well. 

To Packers & Steelers, 

I wish you good luck.

Valentine's Day is approaching soon.

Valentine's Day is around the corner. Valentine’s Day is a special holiday that celebrated on February 14. It is the traditional day which lovers express their love for each other; sending Valentine’s cards, or offering candy. Valentine does not have to be sex. it is about show how much you love that person. To give my two cent worth, I really HATE Valentine's Day when you don't have a partner to share with. I do have a  partner but he will not be available to be here to share my valentine with and I know it feel sucks. I know he is out there thinking of me on this special day. No one dare to have a perfect day to have a perfect Valentine's Day. Oh well, I am going to make the best of it on Valentine's Day. Just wondering what Valentine's Day of 2011 will bring me. I hope it will bring my baby. lol

I wish I have the power to cross Valentine's Day off the calendar? That is totally out of option. We all have to deal with Valentine's Day whether you are single or in relationship.

Dear Cupid,

                 

                  I love my baby with all my heart but he is not here with me. I really miss him so much. Will  you, cupid, mind to shoot an arrow on him just to bring him to me? I am so desperate to be with him on Valentine's Day? Thank you so much and I really appreciate it. 

Much love, 

Sexi Shea Bear 

February will be here very sooner. I just wish we can skip February because it is not my favorite month to go through. I am going to celebrate Black History Month.

At 74 rocking real good. My inspiration: Mrs.Ernestine Shepherd.

Mrs. Ernestine Shepherd is my inspiration and she totally amazed me all the time. She is the most beautiful women I ever seen. It is so astonishing to see that she got a body like a 21 years old at 74 years young. Yea, I said 74 years old. When I saw her on Monique Show on Bet, It shocked my eyes to see how amazing and so brave she is. She looks AMAZING. I truly believe that at any age is just number but you can still have a body like that if you set your mind to.

This amazing women who is the Guinness Book of World Records' oldest female bodybuilder runs 80 miles a week, benches presses 150  and she does all that.Who can do so much better than her? NO ONE. She is HISTORY.  At the age 56, she started to working out at the gym after her sister passed away and dedicated her life to her own health ever since. She got it going real good. Mrs. Ernestine, You go ahead with your badd self. Ms. Ernestine. If she can work that body good, you can do it. She ain't afraid to show what she got. She is my inspiration and she make me wanna say, YES, I CAN DO IT AND I'M GOING DO IT. Lolz. Mane, She is inspiration to all women. 

"She is a unique figure in the world of fitness."

I always thinking about going to the gym to lift those weight which I miss very much but costly too much at the fitness center. I really need to tone it up real bad. I miss hitting the gym. I don't think I never ever will have a body like Ernestine, but I am working on it!" All I want my body to look sculpture and tone good. Dang, I can' t do i t like her.. Getting up at 3am to work out, Sorry, sister, I definitely need my beauty sleep but you SURE do look AMAZING.

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Her motto is: ‘Determined, Dedicated and Disciplined

Mane, there is no damn excuse for us to be  so lazy  at all and she sure did put us in SHAME and including men, too. Maybe some of us don't feel shame but I sure do. If you set your mind to, u will get the best result at the end. So don't give up and keep working out. I really need to start working on that. I am going to STOP making excuse and Let me hit the gym.. I need to blown up her picture and post it on my wall so that will keep me motivated when I can look up to her.

I have a dream of establish my own big fitness or Recreation center along with 6 different aerobic class, basketball gym, weight room, pool, spa, 20 miles park center, and etc.

RIP LIMEWIRE. You will be missed.

I'm so pissed off  when I found out that LimeWire download site has officially shut down last year. I had nowhere to turn to. I have been using LimeWire software since 2000. I am very disappointment to see the company to go. LimeWire will be missed. RIP LimeWire. Anyway, I am afraid to download other music site such as frostwire, Vuze, Rapidshare and etc because it might cause a virus on my computer Limewire never cause any virus on my computer but if it did, Norton AntiVirsus will stop them from download. I don't buy music CD from the store anymore because it is just waste of money. I just don't understand how people can afford to buy music since there is no way to download music.  Some of the song on the CD might not be my favorite. I rather download song that I like on my CD or ipod. If LimeWire is officially dead, why not shut down other music software website which does not make any sense at all,. Have the government check other site that download music, too? I am don't think I am going to like this Frostwire software. Oh well, I guess I will have to deal with it but I know I am not going to buy any CD except Trey Songz, I gotta get that CD. it is a MUST. lol

What does men want when they like what they see?

I have been sitting in my room and wondering why men don't pay much attention to me. Is it that I look too mean every time I go out. I just can't help the look of facial expression on my face.  I know that I am attractive and I get many compliments from guy. I APPRECIATE THAT but don't let my picture FOOL you! I am not those other women who show off their skin way too much just to get men's attention. I am cute and innocent in the face and it is gonna stay that way. I am not going to change my picture just because every man want to see. You can get the stepping if you don' t like it. To be perfectly honest,  I may not be the best looking  women in the world that every man want. Every man want the perfect women and that goes the same thing as for those women who want the the perfect man. I don't have time to be perfect and all that. I don't pretend or  trying to be someone that I am not because I am very good at being me. I LOVE me and I AM me. Everybody ain't perfect.  I don't need to add the extra package to look extremely sexy.  Hey, I am very picky whatever come to men. Before, I dislike dating short guy or date man who have children but I have change that quality in a man. I made some of my list very flexible. 

I considering myself to be god fearing women, goal orientated, college educated,  very smart, outgoing, have some sense of humor, intelligence, got a lot of respect for myself, and carry myself pretty well.  When it come to men, I may be a little bitchy......Depend how you talk to me, you will get what it coming to you. I have dismissed a lot of guy who were being arrogant pervert toward me. I don't have time for that shyt. With that being said, I don't have a job but I am hunting for a job these day. I am in my 30's without any children which I would love to have some of my own.  I don't smoke nor drink.. I don't have any tat on me. I like the way I am  and who I am. If you don't like any of the description that I describe, you can get the stepping. -----> that seem to be my favorite line. lolz.

Every guy I have talk to is not on the same page as I am. I don't have time just to be their friends when they tried to get in my pants or try to holler whenever they want to holler. That is ain't gonna work with me. I ain't gonna to be your fuck friend. THAT IS FOR SURE. I am type of women that is looking for long term relationship and I have being single way way too long. Women these day just don't care anymore and let these men led these women on. To me, it is crazy. 

Some men always say that they want a good women. Once they found a good women, they don't want one. Ladies, It is not you. It is their preference and quality of what they wanted in a women. Don't ever change change yourself because he didn't find what he is looking for. Oh well, they are really missing out a lot. Guys just can't handle a good women when they see one. We are just good women with good morals and a lot of respect & we are just too good for them. 

Pretty odd that I am not the kind of ladies that be looking for a thug, hustler, alcoholic, smoke weed every damn day,  and etc but somehow I fell in love with one of the guy who is a thug. He had a lot of good in him. I mean a lot..